March 24, 2014

Why do we blog? Why do we read blogs?

It's such an interesting little world, the blogging community. I say little, but WHOA MAMA there are literally millions of blogs floating around on this here interwebs.

And you guys found your way here, and decided to stop speed-clicking for a second, and read for a few minutes. Thanks. (Amended to add: this post ended up longer and windier than I expected, it might take you more than a couple of minutes. Sorry. Go get a cuppa and start again.)


Because when I'm having a cuppa, I like to Instagram it.


I've had lots of discussions with folks lately about blogging, both people who blog, and those who say 'Blog? What's a blog?' And eventually, I ask 'Why do you read blogs?' Not because I want to tick every box, and say 'Well here you go, you like reading blogs which are X, Y and Z. I've written that, so now you can like me.'

I ask because I honestly am curious. Curious and I wonder why I read the blogs that I do, and I am also slightly over the whole blog thing, and wondering if there's a way I can get myself back into it without resenting any time spent blogging.

Because that's what happened. That's why there's a whole new space online for me to dump thoughts, rants, selfies, recipes, and all manner of junk outta my head. I was just over it, and all the ideas I had to write about weren't exciting me, and I could think of a hundred and one things I'd rather do (I won't say cleaning, that's a lie...) but I would definitely prefer to sleep, cook, read, iron, anything rather than blogging at that point.

Then I read a bunch of posts during a week-long period in early December, and I wasn't connecting and feeling inspired by any of them. Then came the big 'Ah ha' moment for me. I realised what it was about blogging in particular (both reading and writing) that I wasn't into. The whole monetisation thing.

I get it, I do. If you want to make money from your hobby of writing on the internet, I am SO cheering you on. If you want to commit to it and turn it into your job, then GO YOU. Seriously. You're awesome. But it's not for me. Not right now.

And I was reading regular blog posts hitting my inbox with headlines screaming Make More Money From Your Blog, and How to Get People to Pay You to Write, and Positive Thinking and Sponsorship - You CAN Be A Successful Blogger! That last one was the kicker for me. Why was money the way we see blogging as successful?

Yes, I do like me some free product, or cash, or any kinda kickback. And those who say they don't are lying through their 'editorial consideration' smile. But no, I don't like free product, or cash, or whatever, if it's accompanied by a PR push that I don't believe in. I will very, VERY happily review and write about product that I use, love and would spend my own money on. But send me something hideous, or unsuitable, and be sure you've got a Reply Paid envelope in that box, because it's coming back to you, folks.

Ok, rant over.

What I'm trying to say (in a longwinded way - see, you guys really didn't miss me at all, did you!) is that I am back to blogging, and it's because I'll enjoy it. I will always spend time on various social media channels while I enjoy them, and the minute I don't, I'll stop - because it's a hobby.

The upside of blogging is that it's a hobby which has introduced me to some of the most beautiful people I ever could meet. Honestly. My very closest friends are people I met first through social media channels and blogging, and then in real life. Or IRL, if you're a closet 90's MSN-messaging geek. And I wouldn't change that for the world. There's something very vulnerable about taking online friendships into the real world space, and I think that when you do, you find that the common ground you've previously communicated about, is actually just a teensy-tiny part of what actually makes you compatible as friends.

Take Anna. Yes, she's hot and hilarious and whip-smart. That's how I like my friends.

Love her.


We met on Twitter, chatted on Instagram, connected whilst talking about slightly-overbearing mothers, our love of the River City (Brisbane), Jimmy Buffett's laidback country/coastal music, and vodka. There was always vodka. Then one day, Anna bit the bullet and visited me at the retail store I worked at.

BAM! Fireworks, sparks flew, it was true friendship-love.But the best part was getting to know Anna properly over a vodka or three, and discovering so much more that we had in common.

There was no clue during those original few ranty public-transport-whinge tweets that we exchanged, but she's now one of the most important people in my life. And that's only one of my stories. I have many more beautiful friends who I met online first, and I think THAT'S my favourite thing about blogging. I get to tell you about them.

And another thing: I didn't answer my two questions, 'why do we blog, and why do we read blogs?'

Which I suppose is for the best, because it means I've got something else to write about, and I'll be back another day.



13 comments:

  1. I might just be having a proud Mummy moment! Well done gorgeous. so pleased you're back xx

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    1. Nawwww shucks, lovely! I'm pleased I'm back too! Thanks for the support xox

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  2. I love blogging and love the communication between us all. It is so nice to have positivity and niceness all round, although I do feel a little left out and invisible at times. Welcome back lovely lady.

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    1. Thanks so much, Vicki!
      I think I've felt that at one time or another, but then I get my brain into gear and remember that I'm busy too, and maybe people online DO like me, but they just don't have time to show it!

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  3. I love you too gorgeous lady!! And I love your attitude.
    (so where's the wine and fairy bread that was promised??)

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    1. Bahaha, I knew you'd only come for the party food!

      Love your guts.

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  4. For me it's about the writing. I just love writing. The first couple of years I blogged I didn't promote my blog or posts so they all went unread and no one ever commented on them. But... I was achieving what I'd set out to do - writing something others COULD read. However, once you start it's easy to get bogged down in stats and numbers. And then there's the monetisation which I struggle with as well.

    I said to someone recently I'd much prefer to make sufficient money outside of blogging so I don't have to do anything on MY blog for money. I don't mind ghost blogging or writing elsewhere for money but I want to write for me ONLY on my blog. But... sadly I don't have that luxury yet. I don't do too many sponsored posts (fortunately) and the only 2-3 I've had in the last 6mths were all within a month or so and I did stress about that!

    PS. Sorry about the rave...

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    1. No sorries!

      I completely understand, I really think I want to keep this space 'for me' and just a hobby, so that if I don't write, I don't create a gigantic stress-monster of it!

      I loved your de-crapping post, that was so timely for me.

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  5. Welcome back, lady! So lovely to have you back blogging.
    I can really relate to why you stepped away...and why you stepped back.
    I stepped away for 6 months last year and it was the best thing for me. I came back to blogging simply because I wanted to write, share and connect - all on my terms. And it's been so awesome so far!

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    1. Can I just say, darling... you're better now that you've been away and returned with a new energy. I don't know what it is, but your posts now are so vibrant, and they really resonate with me.

      I'm thrilled to be back, and chuffed to be part of this little community of lovely folk like you!

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    1. Muchos gracias, you hot little thing!

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  7. Hi I'm new to your blog and blogging myself. I read them for daily inspiration and I just enjoy sharing ideas. That way there's no pressure! It's a fab community and so supportive of one another, I'm loving that for sure! It's great that you're blogging again, it seems that you were missed :-) best wishes!

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